The other day I was rereading Sigmund Freud's "Civilization and Its Discontents" and I encountered a page which made my hair stand on end. He said, in essence, that human beings could never get along. Why? Not only was aggression inherent to human nature, but we experienced what he labeled "The narcissism of minor differences." This means that people living closely together, and sharing much in common, will obsessively focus on the tiny differences which divide them. Immediately I thought not just of the problem of marriage, but of course, of the Jews as a people. We are only 16 or so million among 6 or more billion, yet we spend an astounding amount of our time and energy focusing on the minor differences which separate Jew from Jew. It is absurd to outsiders, yet here stand, patently divided year in and year out, decade after decade. Surely this is narcissism at the deepest level. Surely, as we approach the Yamim Noraim, it is the thing we, as a people, should be most eager to atone for and to change. Marc.